When we are bored or unhappy at work, how do we change it up without jeopardizing our career?

Even when you love your job and are fully engaged in your career, life and deadlines at work can get in the way. Nothing keeps us from being our best, most productive selves in our jobs more than being disinterested, overwhelmed, or unchallenged. And, considering how much time we spend at work, being happy matters.

Use Your Strengths to Advance Your Career

There was an unspoken rule that my role was to hold down the fort when everyone else was building relationships with clients on the golf course. At first, I rolled with the punches—women typically didn’t conduct business that way. At events and tournaments, women were mostly relegated to volunteering at the promotional tent or signing in participants. But one summer, I wasn’t willing to miss client engagement opportunities anymore. Plus, I saw myself as an athlete, so I learned the rules of the game and began to perfect my golf swing.

From the time I was a child, whatever I lacked in financial resources and opportunity, I made up for with hard work, drive, and a winning smile. And that worked for much of my life—I excelled at basketball, demonstrated the values of my Indian heritage that my parents had instilled in me, put myself through college, and landed opportunities in financial services—from Amish country to Wall Street—that were worthy of all my ambition. I was succeeding, but I was holding myself back because I was keeping a huge secret from co-workers, friends, and loved ones. I was hiding my sexual orientation, and it was taking up so much mental and emotional energy that I was, at times, perceived as aloof and disconnected by leaders and colleagues, despite my passion and enthusiasm for my career.